Are you fond of something or someone? Ever wondered what made you develop that feel? I am not talking about the reason behind your fondness. Those reasons are mere justifications that happen just for the sake of giving some supporting facts. I am talking about the actual spark that gave you this fondness. We may or may not find out about this spark because once we develop this fondness, we begin to allot a portion of the brain to start disliking something or the other about this fondness. Thanks to our ego. I do agree most of the brain is still mesmerised by this fondness. But, it is that small portion that makes all the difference.
The best of all examples can be Love. We fall in Love with something or someone. The initial spark that ignited this flame did not see anything else except the fact that the fondness is real. It is during the later part of the timeline that we get to allot a part of the brain that starts to find this and that about the person or thing. That is our ego at play. While most of the brain is busy in loving each other, it is that small portion that does the damage.
When I first bought a motorcycle, it had only two valves. I always asked for more because even our hearts have four. Now, why do I say that? It is because, the heart is not like the brain. Although it is separated into four valves, it acts as one unit. Be it in Love or as a simple pumping machine. This is something our Brain has to learn but, thanks to the ego. It will remain as one noodle bundle but, act in different manners.
What's with the heart, mind, fondness and ego? When we look at them as mere terminologies, they are just that. When you start to relate them with their characteristic behaviour, they give different meanings. Did we forget about the "reason" part here? Yes. The ego is inevitable. The Love is happening. The heart is pumping. Fine. Where did this reasoning part come? This is what we do often to either justify or dismiss our notions. We give added flavouring, oh, I must say, artificial flavouring that is more towards causing cancer to us. Even in the fondness, the reasoning is what causes cancer.
Say, when you introduce your Loved one to your circle, they may throw 'n' number of questions. How do we handle them? We keep giving them reasons as to why or how or when or what brought in the fondness. Actually, this spark can never be traced back at all. Well, Bubbles \(^_^)/ you said you Love me because of my words. But, today you still Love me but you do not give equal importance to my words. Do you? Let us not debate on that. But, you will understand it when you do not pass this question to that small portion of the brain. *Triple winks*
So, all the reasons that we give in Life are just justifications to please or to convince someone. Till date, I have never found or given one reason as the one and only reason for having fallen in Love with you, Bubbles \(^_^)/. But, I do remember that night when we had a long conversation about this reason for loving you and myself struggling to somehow tell you this. Back then, I did not have this amount of clarity or ability to explain the same to you. That night did not go well in the end. You asked me to just give a direct answer to any question asked.
So, if you are fond of someone or something, do not try to reason it out. Let is be as it is. You like it. Like it. You love it. Love it. It is not because of the reason you got this fondness. So, it is better to not go after the reasons. Instead, go after the fondness and develop it. In doing this, there will be no hatred emerging anywhere. There will be more and more of the fondness. Err... Am I giving you all an advice? Come on, people. I learnt it the hard way as well. So, Bubbles \(^_^)/. If at all the smaller portion took the better hand in us, it can be given some rest. Today, I have attempted to give you the answer to that question instead of a reason for the same. An answer to a question is always better than a reason. Isn't it? My Lovely Bubbles \(^_^)/ -rPhoenix
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